By Leslie Dee
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27 Jun, 2018
What will they say about me when I’m gone? Since my mother’s death/passing/transition six months ago, I’ve either received a call/text/email or read a Facebook post at least 18 times of the death of a family member, friend, colleague, family member of a friend, friend of a friend, and so on. 2018 has been rough… it’s only June! At the two services for my Mom, I learned some new things about her through family and friends. Laughed and shed tears at times; was wide-eyed about some things too. She had a full and fulfilled life. I’ve been very reflective of a life well lived, especially with my birthday approaching in 30 days. It’s led to some questions, answers, and actions. Am I fulfilling my purpose and legacy? Am I making a difference? Am I having an impact in the lives of other? Am I encouraging and supporting others to fulfill, make a difference, and have an impact? Am I telling family, friends, colleagues, and others NOW the memories and words that I would say or think when they’re gone? After the loss of my Mom, it would have been easy to just crawl in bed, place the covers over my head, and reside in an “unbothered” state. Trust, I’ve done all of the above. Recalling the space I was in for quite some time after my Daddy died, I know that appearing strong at all times is inauthentic and whack! Often reminding myself of the beauty of the conjunction “and”. I can grieve AND live! As I said, it’s been a challenging year. More than ever before, I’ve been intentionally engaging with family and friends face-to-face and through phone calls. Save the texts for arranging the meet-up, please and thank you! When I receive a birthday, dinner, or let’s catch up over drinks invite AND it brings me joy… YES, I’m there! Chill and do nothing… oh YES, I’ll do that too! I don’t know the balance of my days on this earth and whatever will be said when I’m gone… will be said. Right now, I’m present AND in the moment. I’m loving life to the fullest AND loving my peeps.